Gaining Self-Confidence: Tips You Need To Know
Some people have no problems being confident in themselves and their abilities. They can strut their stuff without a second thought. They are seemingly successful, beautiful, healthy people whose drive to succeed never falters. Unfortunately, those with self-confidence sometimes are few and far between.
Many of us suffer from a lack of self-confidence. It is human nature to be more critical of ourselves than we are of other people. Many of us also fear becoming narcissistic or self-absorbed.
Contrary to what you might believe, it is possible to be more confident in oneself without becoming stuck-up.
The key to preventing overconfidence is humility. If you’re worried about becoming narcissistic, then you’ve probably got enough humility already.
Now all you need is a little more confidence.
Foster Competence
Proving to yourself that you’re competent can significantly boost your self-esteem and confidence. You can do this by performing one task every day that makes you feel like you’ve accomplished something.
You needn’t be good at it, nor must it be something big. Completing a simple crossword puzzle can be all it takes. Accomplishment is one of the most important tools for fostering competence.
Positive Self Talk
“Confidence is everything. Confidence is what makes that simple white tee and jeans look good.”
– Ciara
Utilizing positive self-talk is a widespread technique that can be beneficial to self-confidence. Repeating phrases such as “I am confident,” or “I am a worthwhile person,” can have a positive impact on your self-image and body language.
Stopping Negative Self Talk
Do you ever catch yourself saying, “Ah, I suck at life,” or “You’re so stupid! Why’d you do that?” These phrases do nothing but bring us down. They aren’t helpful, nor are they going to assist in motivation.
Instead, they will merely detract from any self-confidence you might have. Try to catch yourself when you see that you’re using these statements, and replace them with positive self-talk.
Don’t Take Constructive Criticism Personally
I know I’m often guilty of this. When someone gives you a suggestion about how you can improve your performance, try not to take it personally.
Instead, take it as it is―a suggestion as to how you can improve your performance. In fact, constructive criticism can help you learn how to be better at what you do to feel more competent and accomplished.
Write Down Positive Attributes
Try and think of all the things you like about yourself. Now, make a list. When you’re feeling down on yourself, take that list out and read it.
This might seem complicated, but once you get going with your plan, you’ll find it’s really relatively easy.
Here’s a quick sample of some things you can write about yourself:
- I’ve got a good sense of humor.
- I have great taste in movies.
- My hair looks great.
- I studied abroad in college, and not everyone can do that.
- People like me.
Take-Home
Make positive changes in your life. Is there something you don’t like about yourself that you can change?
Some things get us down that are fixable so that we can make ourselves better people. For example, if you feel you weigh too much, try eating healthier and exercising to feel better about your body.
If you think you’re too shy, read up on assertiveness, and practice various techniques to become more assertive. If you have the determination to do it, you can change yourself for the better. You’ll feel more competent and confident that way.
Thanks for reading. I hope the words in this article were helpful or helped spark conversation.
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